A message to those struggling with or concerned about someone struggling with low self-esteem, self-acceptance, being different, depression, and finding their purpose and might be involved in self harming behaviors:
I know you might have found yourself struggling with a sense of self as so many are today or you are concerned about someone struggling with issues rooted in low self-image from identity confusion, to depression or anger, to addiction all from a root desire to be accepted and loved at any cost.
I remember in my young adult years the battle of feeling like I had to stop shining so that others would be OK with me...when a beautiful and talented woman said these empowering words to me, "You will not debase yourself to make others feel good!" That word empowered me and led me on a continual journey of searching for my purpose...because my sense of self; essentially who I am is found in my purpose.
In that journey I found Matthew 5:14-16 (ESV). It reads:
14 "You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that[a] they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.
You don't have to continue to debase yourself by living in self-imposed prisons of depression and addiction because you are afraid to shine. You don't have to continue to debase yourself through self-harming behaviors such as cutting and other self-mutilating behaviors. It's more than OK for you to shine by seeking help today!
What I learned is that if you allow Him to rise in you in your home and the marketplace, "WHEN YOU SHINE, HE SHINES." This means that His purpose for your life can be made manifest for the world to see causing an IMPACT in the earth. Our self-esteem is found in Him. Today, you can choose to RISE with His strength, conviction, and love then SHINE so that others might know that there is overcoming power that can be accessed if and when you believe it lives within you for, not only your good, but the good of mankind!
Richale R. Reed Motivational Speaker, MA, LPC, LCAS
***If you are silently struggling with depression, addiction, cutting, low self-esteem and more debasing behaviors search www.psychologytoday.com for a licensed mental health or substance abuse professional in your local area, reach out to a friend, or call this crisis line 1-800-273-TALK. If you are a concerned family member learn the signs and advocate for your friend or family member, don't ignore the signs and let them continue to suffer. You too can seek to learn more by using the same above resources from a professional.